After Getting Around the System...The Real Discovery

We "got around the system" in July of that year. Homecoming was in October and we were very excited about it. We had the dress and my daughter had her date. Although I didn't particularly care for her date, I was still looking forward to my daughter's night out. We went through the plans for the evening - especially after homecoming. She was to spend the night at a friend's house from where she was to call us after her arrival there.

She called us later that evening in tears because her boyfriend had left her at the dance early. She was terribly upset, but still wanted to go to her friend's house. We felt it was probably the right thing to let her go, but asked to speak to the parents to confirm she was there and that they were comfortable having the girls at their home.

We later received a phone call, about 2 hours later, from the parents of the people whose house she was supposed to spend the night at and were told she had gone out through the basement door and left with someone who pulled up in a truck. It's against their rules to have people leave their home once they've arrived and they didn't want us thinking she was there when she wasn't.

I quickly thanked them and hung up to call my daughter on her cell phone while dressing to go out into the night to find her.

She told me she was still at their house and where their house was. As I traveled the short distance to their home, I was a little lost because of the dark - or because of her attempt to keep me at bay while she hurried back there.

When I got there she said she was outside with her boyfriend at his truck in the driveway the entire time. I took her inside and talked to the parents who told me the truth. She had sneaked out the door and left with him earlier and they had just pulled back up in the drive shortly before me.

I had her retrieve her things and had her come with me. She explained she was at the house of her boyfriend's friend, which was between our house and the house she was to be staying at, and was going to stay there with him. Yes, the one that dumped her at the dance.

She said I didn't understand and that he was just bored at the dance and that she had told him he could go with his friends and she would get a ride to her friend's house.

I explained that you don't let boys do that to you especially not on a big night and that you don't sneak out and lie to your parents about where you are because it could be dangerous.

This was the start of our realization that she was lying to be with this boy on quite a regular basis.